Frequently Asked Questions
1. I'd like to ask you some questions or make some comments about your relationship with Barry Winchell. Honestly, the events of 1999 were among the most difficult and personal in my life, and I have made every effort to ensure Barry's memory was honored and justice was served. Outside of very special circumstances, I'd really prefer to avoid bringing up the painful images and memories, move forward and keep this subject private in my heart now. In articles, interviews and bios it is perfectly acceptable to mention these events, the movie Soldier's Girl, press coverage or other information relevant to establishing a background for my participation in the particular article, interview or bio. But generally I do prefer to be identified with and focus on the current activities in my life rather than a painful, tragic event which occurred seven or more years in the past.
2. How have your parents/family reacted to your transition and the public events in your life? My parents love me very much and we talk on the phone occasionally. If you've read my book, you'll know the backstory, but it's safe to say that they strongly disagree with my life since about 1985. My brother and sister are completely supportive.
3. What do you do now? I live and work in Hollywood, CA with my business partner Andrea James. We run Deep Stealth Productions, Inc., our media production company, and I spend my extra time writing and continuing my education as an actress.
4. What effect has "Soldier's Girl" (the movie) had on your life? The tragic events of 1999 and their aftermath have certainly changed my life forever in a million ways, as well as the lives of everyone involved. One result of those events, the movie "Soldier's Girl", has been a unique opportunity for me to look back at some beautiful moments and some horrible ones, and it has helped to put things into a more understandable perspective for me in some ways. The movie has allowed me to meet many new friends and inspirations, and has provided me an opportunity to give my opinion on many issues important to me. It has not been the financially oriented enterprise that some have suggested - I offered to work on the movie for absolutely no money, but Showtime was kind enough to help me out in a small way despite this offer. Beyond that, the experience has been purely an emotional and mental one.
5. I have more questions about "Soldier's Girl" (the movie)... Check out my Soldier's Girl page
6. What about Barry Winchell's family and you? (See Soldier's Girl page for more info) Since the first days after the tragedy I have been in contact with Pat and Wally through mail and phone, and we have met on several occasions. Barry's mother is a very courageous and supportive woman, and his stepfather Wally is incredibly strong and open. I have been lucky to have their kindness and support, as it would have been easy for them to react in other ways.