about 1 year ago - 3 comments
ZOMG, get a “Bad Questions” T-shirt and help support Deep Stealth’s mission to continue providing free web and media content for the GLBT community! What is “Bad Questions”? “Bad Question to Ask a Transsexual” is the YouTube video with 1.4 MILLION views and counting that tells people exactly how much of an IDIOT they are…
about 1 year ago - 1 comment
Hey you can rent our movie “Transproofed” on YouTube now for only $2.99 and help Deep Stealth keep up the good work! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3sRjS1jcMGk#
about 2 years ago - 3 comments
Big News, everyone! Deep Stealth has decided to release Volume 01 of our “Coming Out” video series on transsexual basics for friends, family, loved ones and associates FOR FREE on YouTube! This decision came after much thought, because sales of our videos are one of the main things that enable us to keep our eight…
about 2 years ago - No comments
Big News, everyone! Deep Stealth has decided to release Volume 01 of our “Coming Out” video series on transsexual basics for friends, family, loved ones and associates FOR FREE on YouTube! This decision came after much thought, because sales of our videos are one of the main things that enable us to keep our eight…
about 2 years ago - 5 comments
I get TONS of email… Metric tons. Thank God it’s not paper mail, or my correspondents would be responsible for the deforestation of a large chunk of rainforest. Most of it is routine work stuff, but there are lots of young trans and gay people looking for support and advice, and lots of people my…
about 2 years ago - 1 comment
WOW! I had the great fortune of being able to attend the adjacent Oscar parties benefitting The Trevor Project and APLA in West Hollywood! First, I went to the Trevor Project Oscar Party (party details) at Here Lounge in WeHo, by The Trevor Project (details), Tom Whitman and Instinct Magazine. Sweetie Alec Mapa was to…
about 2 years ago - No comments
Baby Loves Banjo Originally uploaded by Kamepyon Sigh… the best times in life are the simplest… My Dad played the banjo (all of our family played music) and the sound of Bluegrass was always at the edges of my childhood. Isn’t this video cute!?!
about 3 years ago - 2 comments
Transproofed is a 2009 short film in which friends Ava and Joyce race to hide hints that Ava is transsexual before her unaware date arrives at her over-the-top apartment.
about 3 years ago - No comments
Transproofed is a 2009 short film in which friends Ava and Joyce race to hide hints that Ava is transsexual before her unaware date arrives at her over-the-top apartment.
about 3 years ago
This is fabulous news Calpernia! Congratulations!
But I cringe when I think about all the dumb comments people will post under this re-edited version of the “Bad Questions†video when it makes it to the front page of YouTube!
Many of the HUNDREDS of comments people have already written under the original cut of the “Bad Questions” video on YouTube are really funny, and also a bit scary! (I’m surprised that you let the trolls post comments too!)
It’s shocking how many people still don’t get what you were trying to say in the video, despite having seen the video, and despite you answering their questions over and over again!
(Isn’t it a little ironic how you don’t want to educate stupid people, but here you are trying to educate stupid people by making this video, and by answering their stupid comments on YouTube!)
about 3 years ago
Congratulations on the “Director’s Cut” Calpernia. I think it benefits a great deal from the tighter focus on the key narrative.
Remember too that every time some “dumb ass” posts a vile comment they simply validate the whole point you’re making. After all, if everyone was sweet then maybe folks would wonder if you were perhaps imagining it.
I still recall the sheer shock I felt when I was asked a variation of one of those questions on a UK daytime TV show with 2.5 million audience (“So, er, can I get this clear Christine .. you used to have a pen*s”). The guy concerned — the dumb half of a well-known husband and wife duo — even got a look of horror from his co-host. My reaction was completely unplanned and yet I shall never forget the look in Richard Madeley’s eyes. It was a “don’t f*ck with me on my show” pure malice look. In that instant I knew I had just been abused by a bully.
So keep grinding the message home. If they hate it you know that the people concerned recognise that you mean them.
Best wishes, Christine
about 3 years ago
I think you did a very good job with the “Bad Questions” Video.
I Did not expect such an impact on the internet, congratulation from Germany!!!
your Dirk
about 3 years ago
Calpernia,
I love your video. You are so beautiful and talented and I love your sense of humor. I am so sad TLS is over. I miss watching you on TV every week. I hope you are doing well. Take good care of yourself!
Your friend Nate in Cincinnati.
about 3 years ago
I thought the “Bad Questions” video was more snide than either cool or humorous.
Calpernia, you’re a public figure solely because you’re transsexual. You were in the “transsexual version” of “The Vagina Monologues.” Your Logo show was not picked up because it was “a woman tries to meet her true love,” (who’d watch that old story?) but rather, “a transgendered woman tries to meet her true love.”
You’ve put yourself out in the public as a Transgender Poster Girl. Brava!
As such, why subsequently get snotty when merely curious people then approach you to ask innocuous questions like, “What was your old name?” or “What did you use to look like?” (“What did you use to look like?” isn’t a call for paranoia—everyone’s interested in seeing other people’s high school and childhood photos, for instance. We all looked “weird” or “different” in high school, unless we were cheerleaders. As for “What was your old name?—You say in the video that people didn’t ask that of Marilyn Monroe, for instance, for the purpose of denying her womanhood, as they do of you or other transgendered people… I disagree that anyone asking your real name is necessarily trying to dismiss your being a woman. I think people are just curious about public figures and like to know about them, including their real names, their home-towns, what they looked like pre-nose jobs, etc. Ashlee Simpson gets the same scrutiny, and you don’t see her whining.)
Since your whole public identity is based on being trans, then why bitch about people asking you questions about it? (NOTE: I’m talking about your PUBLIC identity, not your private life.)
about 3 years ago
This is a comedy video, dum-dum. But even if it weren’t, I have every right to feel whatever I feel, whether I’m open about being trans or not. Just because I’m open about being trans doesn’t mean I have to put up with people’s idiotic, rude, invasive questions.
about 3 years ago
It makes me sad that people feel the need to say hateful things to others just for the sake of being mean and bitter (i.e. Stephanie).
Calpernia, I think you’re great! Keep on keepin’ on!
Your friend Nate in Cincinnati.
about 3 years ago
Yay! Calpernia called Stephanie a dum-dum!
about 3 years ago
Dear Calpernia, It took a while to figure out how to respond to you. Yes I am another dumb A**, as you so elequently put it. My “roommate” watches youtube all the time. very rarely do I listen to it until I heard your top questions to a tranny. Very impressed and I loved you instantly. You are absoulutely wonderful. Finally (someone) said to keep your nose out of my bedroom and my personal life!!!!!!! I am a gay man and am very put off by the questions asked of me. I loved your answers. But….. (here it is) are you jaded by society? I am wondering if you hate everyone? I didn’t know you were transsexual untll you stated this fact (and it really doesn’t matter). After listening to your comments, I feel that you definately had your fill of crap. Honey, we all have. Are you dissasociating yourself from the world? From the straight community, from the gay community. Do you really hate everyone? Do you hate yourself? Oh please! I know the usual answers to these questions! So don’t bother. You are in such a position to be a role model and have such a personality to do just that. Please use your powers for good. Do not be selfish and keep them to yourself and you will find such extreme personal fullfillment if you youse these powers to open peoples eyes to life. Stop being so guarded to protect yourself and open up to humanity. Let the world know that tolerance (if there is a better word) is the way. You have the power. Use it. If you are ever in, or going through, Billings, Montan, please look me up and lets talk.
about 3 years ago
Brian, I’ve answered these questions quite a lot of times in the comments section of the video. You’ve missed the fact (like so many have, to my great surprise) that this video is a comedic sketch. In real life, I don’t talk in the manner of a bitchy 1950′s Kindergarten teacher with elevator music playing in the background. I’m pleased that my acting abilities have convinced so many people that this is my actual personality, rather than an exaggerated characterization, but I really wasn’t trying that hard so I’m kind of shocked.
Even if this were an unvarnished documentary look into my psyche, I don’t see where anyone could think that I am disassociating myself from the community with it, or that I hate everyone, or least of all that I hate myself.
While I perform with comedic exaggeration in this video, I do stand by the underlying message 100%: Strangers should not ask probing, deeply personal questions about sexuality, genitals and other highly private issues of people they do not know. EVEN if they are “just curious” or think “it’s only natural that I’m curious!” or think “well, but people don’t know that much about transsexuals!” Even if one believes those things, my point is that it is incredibly, incredibly rude and invasive to actually ask these kinds of questions of strangers.
If you still don’t get any of that, or you still feel like it would be appropriate to ask a stranger questions about her genitals, sex life and personal history, then it’s possible you may find a little bit of clarification in my response video at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4pso0Z–BGA
You see, I’m the same nice gal I’ve always been. Just like the people on Saturday Night Live and Mad TV, I was performing. The real me is still quite unknown to most anyone in the world, except maybe Andrea, and it will probably always be that way. I’m quite a secretive creature when it comes to my very innermost feelings and beliefs.
about 3 years ago
But, Calpernia, my best friend is a transsexual! Just kidding. Thank you for the education. I came on your site to read recaps of your show and kept coming because you’re just so damn funny. Take care.