Schmalentine
* Mmm, here’s me on Saint Valentine’s Day, marching solo for yet another holiday. Dating shouldn’t be this difficult! Or rather, forming relationships. I’ve been out of the game for many months now, working on this or that project, and here I am watching another official holiday of sweethearts fly by like a lit-up truckstop through a Greyhound window.
* I date regularly enough when the mood strikes me, and contrary to popular wisdom, LA is a great place to go out with someone new. Some of my fondest memories are of walking along the beach holding hands (it wouldn’t be a clich� if it weren’t delightful), traversing the Venice boardwalk, having sushi and conversation or nervously sipping latt� over life stories in a hidden-away hipster java joint. There is so much to do here.
* But then the realities come up… I must pass the friends test, the coworkers test, the family test. There are considerations to be considered, like Helen Lovejoy’s “What about the children?” and what about my complex, heavy history. So far no man has been able to navigate these proving grounds and make it out the other side with the prize—a pretty damn cool girlfriend.
* But I am young (if you consider 50 young), vital and optimistic. Until the right one comes along, there is always the next best thing: lots and lots of chocolate.
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I’m amazed you’re not in a relationship. You are absolutely right Calpernia, from what I’ve seen and read you are indeed a prize. But more than a damn cool girlfriend they would also get a woman who is beautiful, smart, substantive and sensitive. If we weren’t on opposite coasts I would definitely give it a go. None of those silly considerations here, a good companion is too hard to find. Good luck and don’t compromise yourself, it’ll happen.
I thought Valentines was invented by Hallmark to sell more cards (not seen them selling Congratulations on your SRS yet though).
When it happens, it happens, and some futre Valentine weekends, you’ll probably be praying for a quite night in on your own.
Being 47 and your younger (LOL! Really , that is funny ) I know that some men are put off by intelligent, ambitious, beautiful women (any of the three can freak them) . Too much challenge to their ego. Takes a man who is more advanced and doesn’t have a 1950’s mentality . On the one hand they don’t want you to suffocate them , on the other they want you totally dependant on them. And yes , it’s insane. Chocolate asks nothing and gives everything. Till Mr. Callie comes along Mr. Chocolate is just fine.
Patience, dear. Patience…
Callie,
if you are 50, then you are a FABULOUS FIFTY!
Any woman should wish to look so good at Fifty.
But then, there’s only one Calpernia!
Big Hugzz,
Lisa
OMG someone has a birthday in 7 days
Stay true to who are calpernia and soon your knight will appear.
There is aways chocolate
like you a former medic for uncle sam
(((((((((((((hugz)))))))))))))
Sorry Lisa , Callie is having us on. There is no way she is 50 (if I looked like that at fifty I could make millions in beauty books sales) . She just has a really good sense of humor. Twisted , but totally C.S. Addams. Heehehee .
I am too a single female but it’s not like I sit at home alone! I must be too picky. Like lets see… he has to have a job, he has to have good personal grooming habits, a sense of humor, attractive, respectful and kind, and must be way into me! I just turned 33 on the 11th so I am in the “younger” category. I have three weddings of friends/family to attend this year… and I have been maid of honor three times. Okay I am rambling…what I mean to say is that I relate to what you are going through girl. I just keep on trying I know that it will happen for both of us….HOPEFULLY SOON
Until then there is Dairy Queen’s Chocolate Extreme Blizzard 
Hugs,
Shay
o honey dont worry about it im here too it sucks, ill hate hallmark. anyways ill be your valintine. it will be fun i promise cheer up mauh
oh cal you should’ve done what i did on valentines day… watched a documentary about the st valentines day massacre and rented Fatal Attraction… aaah l’amour!
.♥sheria.
* I like your style, Sheria! Ha ha
* And thanks, everyone. Such sweethearts!
when you wait that is when it hits you when you least expect it, it always happens to me so hang in there and know that we all love you
Calpernia,
Hey! I am sure that the one for you is out there…until then know that you have people out in the world that adore you and your life. I was wondering if tonight at 12:00 you could really call my cell phone and atleast say happy birthday to my best friend Jarrod who loves your story and make him have the best birthday yet. I know you have your own birthday wishes to handle…but this would mean so much. Awww! My cell phone number is nine three seven seven two six three six four three. Please call! Thank you for being you!
Calpernia:
If you’re still single and looking, I’m available and would feel honored to have a beauty such as yourself as a girlfriend. Lucky would I be were a knockout like you to make me her everyday Valentine, not just for one measely day in the shortest month of the year. A couple snags are that, at 33, I am a generation younger than you and also that while you are a Hollywood-girl, I live in the East Coast - the opposite side of the country from you. I admire you for the work you do and the causes you tirelessly support as well as your physical beauty, and I am up to the challenge to face the emotional and socio-political hardships that family, friends, co-workers and society in general burdens trans women and those that care for and defend them. If you’re still a lonely-heart pining for Mr. Right to make his grand appearance in your life, I’m sure whomever is meant for you –hopefully me– is out there waiting in the wings to fulfill that role for you.
–an adoring fan,
Nels.
* Hee hee, I just reread this thread… Nels, I am actually in my early 30’s, not 50…
I thought you were kidding about being 50 but thought I’d play along. Based on your being such a busy woman, what with all that you have on your plate, I didn’t think you’d reply to my post so soon - am indescribably gratifies that you did. I first encountered you several months ago when I came uopn Donna Rose’s site which came up during searches related to the Gwen Araaujo tragedy. While looking through the various albums Donna offers on her site, you appeared in an album for a V-Day gathering. You were the birthday girl looking stunning in a gorgeous white dress and I instantly fell in love never dreaming you might be single, just hopelessly pining in my cyber-solitude. You looked mah-ve-lous –as Billy Crystal’s Fernando Lamas SNL persona used to say– and you still look so to me know. I love the shots of you in the floral sundress and those of you lounging longingly on the grass. If you’re still actively loking for a new guy in your life and open to the possibility of exploring a bi-coastal relationship with a single fella on the East Coast who holds a major torch for you, then let me know in your next reply whenever your timetable permits you time to respond that is.
–Nels.
Hmmm, I always thought you were like Athena, Ageless beauty that lasts forever. Now I really feel old, I am looking at black ballons in two yrs when I turn 40, I hope I make it, am looking forward to it. Calpernia, I do think you have timeless beauty, keep up what you are doing, it is no doubt working.
A friend,
Van